The doctor cleared his throat. “I’m sorry, but I have bad news.”

He paused, looking down at the floor. He looked back up at her. He started to say something and then stopped, looking back down at the floor.

That’s when Pat began to cry.

She’d argued with herself about even coming to the doctor’s office. Her baby was a year old, and he hadn’t started crawling yet. He tried, yes, dragging his legs behind him as he struggled to make it just a few feet on the floor, but it didn’t look right. Everyone told her that she was worrying over nothing, and maybe she was, but she told herself that she would take him to the doctor, just to be safe . . .

“Your son has a neuromuscular disorder called Spinal Muscular Atrophy,” the doctor said. “It’s a form of muscular dystrophy that primarily affects children.”

Pat was speechless. Everyone had told her she was silly. She had hoped she was wrong, prayed she was wrong, but still . . . she knew.

“What’s going to happen to him?” she managed to say.

“Where most children grow stronger as they get older, your son is going to get weaker. He’ll lose the ability to move. He’ll lose the ability to breathe on his own. And one day, he’ll catch an infection that will spread into his respiratory system, giving him severe pneumonia . . .”

She held up her hand to stop him. “You’re saying he is going to die?”

He nodded. “There are three types of SMA. Caught this early, your son almost certainly has Type I. Most children with Type I die of pneumonia before the age of two.” He paused. “I’m sorry.”

Pat looked up into his face and saw that he really was sorry. It made her angry. Not because of his pity, but because in this man’s eyes, her baby was already dead.

“Don’t be sorry,” Pat said, wiping tears away from her face. Her voice was suddenly very calm.”He isn’t going to die.”

“It’s important you understand the situation, Mrs. Morrow. The pneumonia . . . he won’t be able to fight it.”

“He won’t have to,” she said. “I’ll fight it for him.”

The miracle of mothers

Over the next 16 years, I had pneumonia 16 times. But I never died. It sounds strange to say it, but my mother wouldn’t let it happen.

She orchestrated a team of more than a dozen doctors. She slept in a chair beside me in the hospital, sometimes for as many as 30 days in a row. She pounded my chest and back every two hours to loosen the mucus, covering my chest and back with bruises.

Today, at 27 years old, I’m one of the oldest people in the world with my type of SMA, and people tell me it’s a miracle. And I agree, it is. But the miracle isn’t just me. It’s a mother who fought like only a mother can to keep me alive.

By “alive,” I don’t mean just “not dead,” either. You’d think my mother would have been satisfied for me to live at home, tucked away from the world where she could protect me, but for her, that wasn’t living. She insisted that I be great.

When my elementary school principal decided that disabled children didn’t have a place in her school, my mom appealed to the school board and turned every board member’s life into a living hell for two years.

She won.

When I wanted to play basketball, she forced an astounded coach to reinvent the rules of the game so that I could be the “ball carrier” for the team, and no one could take the ball away. Not surprisingly, everyone wanted me on their team.

When I could no longer pick up a pencil, she arranged for honors students at local colleges to help me with my homework after school. I graduated at the age of 16, not only near the top of my class, but with college credit.

If you’re a mother, none of these things surprise you. Some mothers are weak, sure, but the vast majority fight for their children, especially when those children are defenseless. It’s not because they’re trying to be heroes. It’s because that’s their job.

And I think we can learn something from them. Not to minimize what mothers do, but I’ve come to believe that our job as writers is not all that different.

Fighting for your ideas

Growing up, I always had to fight to get people to listen to me.

The worst part about being disabled isn’t the pain or the struggle but how the world tries to shove you into a corner and pretend that you don’t exist. After all, what could you possibly have to contribute? You’re going to die soon, poor thing. Here’s a nice, quiet room and some morphine to ease the pain.

They don’t proactively hold you back, no, but they don’t expect you to succeed either. I’ve spent my entire life fighting against the weight of those expectations.

Like when university professors were flabbergasted when, on the first day, I asked my attendant to raise his hand, so I could answer the question that no one else could.

Or the vaguely constipated look on the face of a venture capitalist when I asked for $500,000 of startup capital for my first software company.

Or the disbelieving stares of people at a real estate conference when I gave a talk about buying million-dollar homes without even being able to get up the stairs to see the inside of them.

Their disbelief has never stopped me, of course. It’s not a matter of persistence or strength or attitude, as some people think. It’s a matter of shame.

How could I possibly look my mother and father and all of the others who have sacrificed so much for me in the eye and tell them, “I can’t?” I couldn’t bear it. The shame of dishonoring their sacrifice by giving up would poison my soul.

And so I fight

If my mother could ignore a doctor who would condemn me to death, then I can ignore my inner demons who tell me I’ll never make it as a writer.

If my mother could demand that I achieve straight As in school, then I can demand greatness from every blog post I publish.

If my mother could lobby school administrators and government agencies to get me the help I needed, then I can lobby bloggers and social media power users to get my idea the attention it deserves.

Not to imply that I’m unique, because I’m not. Yes, I’ve had to overcome a lot of adversity, but so does every creative person who wants their ideas to see the light of day.

If you want to succeed, you can’t wait for the world to give you attention the way a cripple waits for food stamps to arrive in the mail. You have to be a warrior. You have to attack with the madness of a mother whose child is surrounded by an army of predators.

Because, let’s face it, your ideas are your children. Their future is as tender and delicate as that of any newborn.

You can’t just write them down and expect them to succeed. Writing isn’t about putting words on the page, any more than being a parent is about the act of conception. It’s about breathing life into something and then working to make sure that life becomes something beautiful.

That means spending ten hours on a post, instead of 30 minutes.

That means writing a guest post every week, instead of one every few months.

That means asking for links without any shame or reservation, not because you lack humility, but because you know down to the depths of your soul that what you’ve done is good.

You have to realize that your blog is more than just a collection of ones and zeros floating through cyberspace. It’s more than the words on the page. Your blog is a launchpad for your ideas, and you are the rocket fuel that lifts them off the ground.

So burn it up, baby.

Your ideas are counting on you.

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She walks away. She doesn’t give a fuck. People like Pat aren’t aware of it, but they’re the best friends Obama has. They hate him, sure, but they don’t hate him for any reasons that make sense. When it comes down to it, most of them hate the president for all the usual reasons they hate “liberals” — because he uses big words, doesn’t believe in hell and doesn’t flip out at the sight of gay people holding hands. Additionally, of course, he’s black, and wasn’t born in America, and is married to a woman who secretly hates our country.

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Life on Purpose: 15 Questions to Discover Your Personal Mission

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I believe that we were all sent here for a reason and that we all have significance in the world. I genuinely feel that we are all blessed with unique gifts. The expression of our gifts contributes to a cause greater than ourselves.

First, a personal story

Last year, I was running at full speed; chasing after my dream of money and ‘success’. However, I had forgotten why I was running. Luckily, I met Jim (not his real name). Jim had achieved all the financial goals I was reaching for. He had financial independence, several successful businesses, homes in multiple countries, and the luxury to afford the finest things money could buy. Through hard work, persistence and sheer action; he had made it! But, Jim was not happy. He did not have the free time to enjoy his wealth. He wanted a family. He wanted peace. He wanted to live his life… but he was not able to. He had too many responsibilities, too much to lose, and too many things to protect. He had spent years building his castle, and now that it is complete, he is spending his time keeping it from eroding.

Getting to know Jim was a life altering and eye opening experience. His words snapped me out of my state of ‘unconsciousness’. It became clear to me that, “I did not want to spend the next 10 years chasing after money, only to find that I’ll be back at the same place I am at today; emotionally, mentally, and spiritually”. My ‘chase’ came to a screeching halt, everything was put on hold, and I spent the next two months re-evaluating my life and purpose.

These questions were running through my mind:

What am I chasing after? Why am I chasing it? What is my purpose? Why was I put here?

While reading “E-Myth: Why Most Small Businesses Don’t Work“, I found myself in tears during the chapter on finding purpose. In that chapter, Michael Gerber asks the readers to do a visualization exercise. Through his guidance, he instructs you to vividly picture the day of your funeral. What do you want your eulogy to consist of? What would your lifetime achievements be? What would matter the most at the end of your life? Is it what you are doing right NOW?

I started writing. It began by listing all the things that are most important to me. I wrote down all the things I wanted to do. I re-visited my personal mission statement. I decided that whatever venture I commit to must align with my personal mission, my values and my goals. For every new opportunity that comes along, I would ask myself how it aligns with my goals. Regardless of how much money I could acquire, if the venture did not align with where I wanted to be, then I would not pursue it. Here is my personal mission statement:

• “To Empower, motivate and inspire people to living happier and more fulfilled lives“.

Here are some of my values and goals:

• What matters most is my connection with myself, being present and feeling blissful.
• What I value most is having meaningful relationships with people. Being able to connect with people on deep levels.
• I plan to be financially independent, and have control of my time and location. I plan to work only on projects and causes that I connect with. I plan to acquire my finances without violating my values, goals and personal mission.
• I plan to travel and live in different parts of the world. Experiencing different cultures, documenting them in photographs and sharing them with others.
• I will buy my mom a house in Vancouver with a ravine in the backyard. That’s a dream of hers and I’d like to fulfill it.
• Having a family is important to me. I desire a deep, loving relationship with my spouse.
• To live everyday fully as if it was my last.

15 Questions to Discover Your Life Purpose

The following are a list of questions that can assist you in discovering your purpose. They are meant as a guide to help you get into a frame of mind that will be conducive to defining your personal mission.

Simple Instructions:

• Take out a few sheets of loose paper and a pen.
• Find a place where you will not be interrupted. Turn off your cell phone.
• Write the answers to each question down. Write the first thing that pops into your head. Write without editing. Use point form. It’s important to write out your answers rather than just thinking about them.
• Write quickly. Give yourself less than 60 seconds a question. Preferably less than 30 seconds.
• Be honest. Nobody will read it. It’s important to write without editing.
• Enjoy the moment and smile as you write.

15 Questions:

1. What makes you smile? (Activities, people, events, hobbies, projects, etc.)

2. What are your favorite things to do in the past? What about now?

3. What activities make you lose track of time?

4. What makes you feel great about yourself?

5. Who inspires you most? (Anyone you know or do not know. Family, friends, authors, artists, leaders, etc.) Which qualities inspire you, in each person?

6. What are you naturally good at? (Skills, abilities, gifts etc.)

7. What do people typically ask you for help in?

8. If you had to teach something, what would you teach?

9. What would you regret not fully doing, being or having in your life?

10. You are now 90 years old, sitting on a rocking chair outside your porch; you can feel the spring breeze gently brushing against your face. You are blissful and happy, and are pleased with the wonderful life you’ve been blessed with. Looking back at your life and all that you’ve achieved and acquired, all the relationships you’ve developed; what matters to you most? List them out.

11. What are your deepest values?
Select 3 to 6 (See list of words to help you | list in pdf) and prioritize the words in order of importance to you.

12. What were some challenges, difficulties and hardships you’ve overcome or are in the process of overcoming? How did you do it?

13. What causes do you strongly believe in? Connect with?

14. If you could get a message across to a large group of people. Who would those people be? What would your message be?

15. Given your talents, passions and values. How could you use these resources to serve, to help, to contribute? ( to people, beings, causes, organization, environment, planet, etc.)

Putting it all together: Creating Your Personal Mission Statement

“Writing or reviewing a mission statement changes you because it forces you to think through your priorities deeply, carefully, and to align your behaviour with your beliefs”

– Stephen Covey, ‘7 Habits of Highly Effective People’

A personal mission consists of 3 parts:

• What do I want to do?
• Who do I want to help?
• What is the result? What value will I create?

Steps to Creating Your Personal Mission Statement:

1. Do the exercise with the 15 questions above as quickly as you can.

2. List out actions words you connect with.

a. Example: educate, accomplish, empower, encourage, improve, help, give, guide, inspire, integrate, master, motivate, nurture, organize, produce, promote, travel, spread, share, satisfy, understand, teach, write, etc.

3. Based on your answers to the 15 questions. List everything and everyone that you believe you can help.

a. Example: People, creatures, organizations, causes, groups, environment, etc.

4. Identify your end goal. How will the ‘who’ from your above answer benefit from what you ‘do’?

5. Combine steps 2-4 into a sentence, or 2-3 sentences.

What is your purpose? What is your mission? We’d love to hear about your goals and aspirations. Please share with a comment!

If you enjoyed this article, please share it on StumbleUpon, vote for it on Digg or bookmark it on del.icio.us. I appreciate your support.

External resources on personal mission and finding purpose:

• How a Personal Mission Statement Can Help You Change
• Steve Pavlina: How to discover your life purpose in about 20 minutes
• Stephen Covey’s Interactive Mission Statement Builder
• The Five-Step Plan for Creative Personal Mission Statements
• Book: Are You Ready to Succeed?

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1. http://www.williammize.com” rel=”external nofollow” target=”_new”>William Mize

   Nov 07 07, 6:46 am PST

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   A GREAT entry, Tina. Absolutely smashing. As a mystery writer, I sometimes tend to think that my purpose involves sitting in my room, writing my books, but I always need to remind myself that the higher purpose always, always, always involves somehow serving others. Helping others. Entertaining, enlightening and perhaps educating others.

   It’s always about other people.

2. http://thinksimplenow.com” rel=”external nofollow” target=”_new”>Tina Su

   Nov 07 07, 8:56 am PST

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   Thanks Bill! Great to hear from ya.

3. http://www.iwillchangeyourlife.com” rel=”external nofollow” target=”_new”>Peter

   Nov 07 07, 9:05 am PST

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   Hi Tina,

   Thanks for a very enjoyable article. Writing a personal mission statement was an exercise I did at the start of this year and it has been life changing.

   Peter

4. http://www.take-20.com” rel=”external nofollow” target=”_new”>Rahul

   Nov 07 07, 9:13 am PST

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   Awesome post Tina!

5. http://www.amiracleaday.com” rel=”external nofollow” target=”_new”>Jason

   Nov 07 07, 10:03 am PST

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   Very nice… I wrote an article a while back to help people find their purpose, but my technique was a bit simpler, intended to get the surface consciousness out of the way and get down to the bigger part of you that’s down a bit deeper, the part that actually knows what your purpose is.

   If you’d like to read it, you can find it at
   Find Your Calling

6. http://www.EmpoweredSoul.com” rel=”external nofollow” target=”_new”>Andrea Hess | Empowered Soul

   Nov 07 07, 10:14 am PST

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   Very nice article, Tina. I have a resource on my site that’s an audio visualization that is a different path to the same answers … it’s at www.EmpoweredSoul.com/freemini.htm. Feel free to check it out, I think you’d like it.

   Blessings,
   Andrea

7. http://www.chefsgonewild.blogspot.com” rel=”external nofollow” target=”_new”>ZenChef

   Nov 07 07, 10:17 am PST

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   Very inspiring Tina. Thank you!

   I like your style, it’s always very precise and clear. I bet it reflects perfectly your personnality.

   I am certain you will be very succesfull in life and achieve all of your goals and i am following your advices to achieve mines.
   I know for a fact that this stuff works and that everyone has the ability to create the life of their dreams, it’s just a question of learning, believing and practicing. We all get lost sometimes in everyday problems but you are here to offer a fresh reminder that we should always seek and follow our higher purpose. It’s a noble cause.

8. http://boybastos.blogs.friendster.com/salagubang_atbp/” rel=”external nofollow” target=”_new”>Gil

   Nov 07 07, 10:36 am PST

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   WOW Tina. This article is probably one of the best ones I’ve read not only from you but any topics that deal with living a purposeful life. I can see it going all the way up in Diggs Top 10 list shortly. It’s well planned, amply researched, and written so perfectly. As with all your articles, I tend to find myself engrossed on my reading partly because of the great personal stories you tell. I feel the strong connection. That reminds me of something — I never told you my real name was “Jim”. How did you know? : )

9. http://blog.creativethink.com” rel=”external nofollow” target=”_new”>Roger von Oech

   Nov 07 07, 11:04 am PST

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   Here are some Pithy Words:

   Thoughtful insights. I’m glad I stopped by. Best wishes to you and your many readers!

10. http://mcarthursrant.blogspot.com/” rel=”external nofollow” target=”_new”>Scott McArthur

    Nov 07 07, 4:12 pm PST

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    I do a couple of little things with my clients when I’m getting them to “think”. I ask them to write themselves a referance (employment recommendation) and to write their own obituary! Works well if you talk them through the Nobel story as part of the session.

    Great blog!

11. http://brainbasedbiz.blogspot.com” rel=”external nofollow” target=”_new”>Robyn

    Nov 07 07, 4:43 pm PST

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    Hi Tina, I so agree that the vision we want to see helps us consider what life is all about. I really enjoy the work I do now, which I could not do when younger and raising a family. There are times for all things!

12. http://brightdays.wordpress.com/” rel=”external nofollow” target=”_new”>Shirley

    Nov 07 07, 5:21 pm PST

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    Thanks Tina. I love the reminder about the rich guy with no time to enjoy life.

    Also, although I didn’t know it when I started them, I think my blogs are representative of my goals. I’ve always known I wanted to add more happiness, fun and laughter into the world (we have way too many cynics out there), I just didn’t realize this could be my mission in life.

    Thanks for letting me take a second look at myself and my goals.

13. http://attractingyourgoals.com” rel=”external nofollow” target=”_new”>Raymond

    Nov 07 07, 5:53 pm PST

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    Hi Tina,

    That’s the ultimate 15 questions I want to answer today.

    Thank you for sharing and visit my blog. I appreciate that.

14. http://lawrencecheok.com” rel=”external nofollow” target=”_new”>Lawrence Cheok

    Nov 07 07, 10:41 pm PST

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    Hi Tina,

    This is a very comprehensive guide to forming a purpose and mission statement.

    It is really helpful to anyone who comes across this article.

    Kudos to you!

15. http://www.altnoise.net” rel=”external nofollow” target=”_new”>Miracle

    Nov 08 07, 5:11 am PST

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    I wrote out a personal mission mantra a few months ago. It was an Guy Kawasaki take on Stephen Covey’s idea. What I found to be useful is to create a business card with the statement on there and it keep it with you. I added a neat photo to help me visualize and remember it.

16. http://acquirewisdom.blogspot.com” rel=”external nofollow” target=”_new”>Sam Chan

    Nov 08 07, 6:03 am PST

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    Hi Tina,
    Thanks for sharing this great post with powerful questions for one to ponder! Indeed, it is so much blessed to know our personal mission early in the life.

    “It is not what we get. But who we become, what we contribute… that gives meaning to our lives.” – Anthony Robbins

    Blessings
    Let’s Acquire Wisdom and Live with Passion

17. http://lifelearningtoday.com” rel=”external nofollow” target=”_new”>K Stone

    Nov 08 07, 7:17 am PST

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    This is awesome! My mission is to love my family both when it’s easy and when it is challenging, to be the best parent to my son, and to help others by teaching what I learn as I live my life.

    Thanks! I’m going to do this exercise!

18. http://www.jacklynker.com” rel=”external nofollow” target=”_new”>Jacklyn Ker

    Nov 08 07, 10:35 am PST

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    What a great post Tina! The quote by Sam Chan from Anthony Robbins – “It is not what we get. But who we become, what we contribute… that gives meaning to our lives.”- is the very one that helps me sets my mission 8 years ago. I see my life purpose then, from why I have to experience life in such a different way. God has a purpose for me! And so does He for everyone..

    “To Live, To Love, To Learn & To leave a Legacy..” ~ Stephen Covey

    Cheers!

19. http://everyoneneedstherapy.blogspot.com” rel=”external nofollow” target=”_new”>therapydoc

    Nov 08 07, 11:13 am PST

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    Money’s nice, pays the bills. But it’s definitely not the key to happiness.

20. http://secretoflife.typepad.com” rel=”external nofollow” target=”_new”>Secret Simon

    Nov 08 07, 5:00 pm PST

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    I’m impressed with this article and stumbled it. One thing though: I use the Firefox browser at 800 x 600 and when I clicked on this post, the left edge of the text was missing. I had to alter my screen resolution to read it. It might be worth you checking this out.

21. http://gurushabad1.blogspot.com” rel=”external nofollow” target=”_new”>surjit

    Nov 08 07, 6:15 pm PST

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    Hi Tina,
    Very inspiring and profound post.Thanks for sharing.
    You have a great blog.
    My best wishes.

22. http://www.allthingsworkplace.com” rel=”external nofollow” target=”_new”>Steve Roesler

    Nov 08 07, 8:54 pm PST

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    Tina,

    The eulogy activity is always a wonderful way to bring people face-to-face with the reality of their lives.

    Keep up the fine work with the blog; it’s a terrific contribution to the achievement of your stated Purpose.

23. http://TRCoach.com” rel=”external nofollow” target=”_new”>TRCoach

    Nov 09 07, 6:18 pm PST

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    Hi Tina, I love your blog and this post is thought provoking. Great goals, especially
    “To live everyday fully as if it was my last.”
    Tom

24. http://asmexyhousewife.com” rel=”external nofollow” target=”_new”>Mandy

    Nov 12 07, 4:49 pm PST

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    You asked for some feedback, so here you go…

    Thank you for this simple, yet thought provoking exercise. I’ve thought about some of these ideas before. Sitting down and writing them out was key, because by seeing them I could pull them all together. I now have a mission statement and a better idea of where I’m going.

25. http://blog.jollygreengirl.com” rel=”external nofollow” target=”_new”>Jolly Green Girl

    Nov 12 07, 9:54 pm PST

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    excellent post.. reminds me of the things that I value in my life. Thanks for the reminder

26. http://www.blatternet.ch” rel=”external nofollow” target=”_new”>Ivan

    Nov 15 07, 12:42 am PST

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    Very good article! It motivates me to think about my mission even though I already wrote one. But live is always changing and perhaps I have to adjust my mission too.

    Ivan
    http://www.blatternet.ch

27. Peter

    Nov 15 07, 8:35 am PST

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    Do you have any idea how much fear does this kind of suggestions stir inside a person?

    I’ve tried suggesting to people an exercise like this one, only simpler, the one found on Brian Kim’s blog.
    You list Skills and Interests and then try to find an answer to the question “What would I love to do on a daily basis utilizing both my skills and interests that will add significant value to people? ”

    Not one of the many people I suggested this exercise to did it. None of them told me their answer to this question.

    The reason for this, in my opinion, is FEAR.

    People fear this kind of exercises.
    They fear the kind of change it could bring.

28. http://www.entregreeneur.com” rel=”external nofollow” target=”_new”>Bradley C Hughes

    Nov 15 07, 5:17 pm PST

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    Hi Tina,

    Bradley from Victory Darwin’s 4HWW Ning group here.

    Very glad to have the benefit of your fantastic effort in summarising, simplifying and presenting these powerful tools of self-discovery.

    I did the eulogy visualisation exercise as part of a two day seminar I attended about a month ago.

    It is an extremely powerful, emotive experience, and as the previous poster said it can drive up a lot of fear.

    This exercise was on the morning of the second day, where we had already spent much of the first day on exploring, driving up our fears and shining the gentle warm light of loving kindness on them to cause those fears to disappear.

    For anyone contemplating undertaking this exercise, if you think you have unresolved fears in the way of getting to the source of yourself and knowing exactly who you want to be for yourself, I can only suggest you do the fear removal healing work with someone you trust to empower you in that, before you undertake this kind of exercise.

    So, who exactly am I, as per the testimony of those at my future imagined eulogy?

    I am a wise mentor, a masterful communicator, and a powerful loving contribution to all the people in my life.

    happy regards,

    Bradley C Hughes

29. Colleen

    Nov 16 07, 5:12 am PST

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    Great article Tina!
    Your sharing of your own personal experiences is heartwarming, and helpful. This guide has prompted me to write my own long delayed ‘Mission Statement’…thanks again for sharing!

30. http://showingmypanties.com” rel=”external nofollow” target=”_new”>grace

    Nov 17 07, 3:31 pm PST

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    I ‘’stumbled” on you on Digg. I do like the way you put this together and included your personal journey. I will visit your site again. Truly well written blogs with consistent value are a rarity. I would really enjoy reading some of your previous posts, especially how to let go of unfulfilling relationships. Kudos Tina.

31. http://www.xideas.org” rel=”external nofollow” target=”_new”>Jorge

    Nov 22 07, 9:32 pm PST

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    Tina,

    thank you so much for posting this. I’ve done this myself and yes it puts things into perspective as to how you go about pursuing your dreams/goals in life. I did my mission statement around 8 months ago after reading The Leadership Challenge and later True North which is also about leadership. I encourage people to read both these books as we are all leaders in one way or another as well something more to add to your post. You’re a true leader

    “We lead from the essence of who we are as a person.”

32. http://www.magandangbalita.com” rel=”external nofollow” target=”_new”>jun

    Dec 11 07, 6:11 pm PST

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    Hi Tina,

    I was researching for a workshop I’ll be conducting and google’d life purpose. A good thing your site is in the first page on the search results.

    This is a great help for me, personally and for the workshop. Though I’ve made my own life purpose exercise two years ago, I’ll be re-doing it with your help.

    Great insights!

    A Merry Christmas to you and yours.

33. http://www.journeytopurposeblog.blogspot.com” rel=”external nofollow” target=”_new”>T. Dorsey

    Dec 16 07, 7:40 pm PST

    33
    

    I agree that creating a mission statement is an important step in living your life purpose. The mission statement helps clarify what your right livelihood is and it serves as a beacon of light to help you stay true to you life’s path.

34. http://patriciasingleton.blogspot.com” rel=”external nofollow” target=”_new”>Patricia – Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker

    Dec 31 07, 1:32 pm PST

    34
    

    Tina, thanks for the questions and story. I printed out your article. When I have some free time, I will definitely sit down and write out my answers to those questions. Thanks for sharing them.

35. http://www.beyondbehaviors.com” rel=”external nofollow” target=”_new”>Steve Nguyen

    Jan 11 08, 7:22 pm PST

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    Tina: As I’m browsing your blog, I’m finding some nice gems. This one in particular is very well thought out. I look forward to using your steps to redo my mission statement.

36. ben

    Feb 01 08, 2:19 pm PST

    36
    

    And now imagine reading this article as a sort of pessimistic nihilist. Kind of depressing, really.

    Sorry, I understand that a lot of thought and work have gone into this.. I’m sure a lot of people will enjoy the read, but though..
    What am I trying to say anyway?

    I’m sorry. never mind.

    (I am enjoying reading other stuff on your blog right now though – nice)

37. http://plainvica.blogspot.com” rel=”external nofollow” target=”_new”>Vica

    Feb 05 08, 10:32 am PST

    37
    

    This is something to get back to. I don’t think this could be done in afternoon, but after some given thoughts… anyway, it’s a really good way to start. Thanks for sharing.

38. http://thebookshare.blogspot.com” rel=”external nofollow” target=”_new”>jd

    Feb 14 08, 12:16 am PST

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    Hey Tina –

    Nice write up and great integration of related and relevant sources.

    I think clarity of personal missions can very a great deal on based on where you are in the stack of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs.

    For me, my mission is pretty simple — exponentially improve the quality of life for the underdogs.

    Here’s a related post on finding what you really want that you might enjoy — http://thebookshare.blogspot.com/2007/11/how-to-figure-out-what-you-really-want.html

39. Emma

    Feb 18 08, 3:37 pm PST

    39
    

    Thank you, this article is just what I needed. Several changes have occurred in my life that I have yet to analyze. After doing the questions, I realize that my deepest joy in life is in connecting with others. I could happily spend the rest of my life on the back of a horse or in a tango embrace, communicating in a language without words. Right now I am studying for a loveless job to finance my passions and to provide for my family, but these revelations have made my question my career choice – is there something I can do that allows me to connect to others without pretense?

40. Bobby

    Mar 03 08, 9:16 pm PST

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    Tina – This is a neat method and I can see how others can benefit from it. However, it seems to assume that I have already found something that I am passionate about. I wrote down answers to the questions; the first things that popped into my mind. When I went to the 4th step of creating my mission statement, it says, “Identify your end goal.” I drew a blank. I reviewed my answers and found that none of them are anything that I would consider to be my end goal. There was nothing that I was passionate enough about to consider putting into my life’s mission statement. Any suggestions? Thanks!!

41. http://www.inden.co.uk” rel=”external nofollow” target=”_new”>Qleyo

    Mar 12 08, 4:36 pm PDT

    41
    

    Hi Tina, great article!

    I answered all the questions and my repetitive phrases were – arts, design industry, smart, high esteem, successful, empower people, learn french fluently, travel, music, play the piano up to grade 8, love, ideas, simple.

    All together a made a personal statement, which seems to have been the same for the last 4 – 5 years quite happy

42. http://peter.stubbs3@virgin.net” rel=”external nofollow” target=”_new”>Peter John Stubbs

    May 15 08, 7:52 am PDT

    42
    

    15 May 2008

    Am now 59 years of age, am very laid-back, find it easy to chill-out, I live a fairly simple life enjoying peace, contentment, nature, animals, music.

    Strongly believe in being as courteous as much as possible, communicative, respectful.

    Do not put much importance in money,(so many people are obsessed with money) unlike many people am not obsessed with materialism, possessions, status.

    I am me, I am myself, am genuine, am a good caring, altruistic, selfless, very wise human being.

    Would love to hear from others directly via “e-mail”, please show my “e-mail address” if possible.

    Sincerely

    Peter

    Bournemouth
    Dorset (County)
    UK

    ****************************

    Peter’s Email: peter.stubbs3@virgin.net

43. Zeenat

    May 19 08, 12:49 am PDT

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    What if.. I know what it is I want to really do, have known so all my life, but don’t know how to go about doing it. Or maybe I feel I don’t have enough resources like money, etc. to actually fulfill my personal mission. What then. Your article is very helpful, the self-questionnaire really nice, but I get stuck in trying to figure out how to go about doing it.

44. Gyuri

    Jun 02 08, 3:49 pm PDT

    44
    

    Tina,
    Great article, but I wanted to point out that the word list links for Q.11 are not working.

45. christy

    Jun 27 08, 9:44 am PDT

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