Blog Classic - Brett Stark

Mum

July 20, 2023 by Brett

Miss you already Mum.

2024 Theme

Let it go!

2024 Focus

Health: Lower Stress, Continued Running/Exercise, Good eating
Fun: Hobbies, vacation, just fun
$$: Savings Goals

Look for the Joy.

Review

Health: Quite good exercise routines with running and a decent of tennis. Can improve eating and drinking, basically food intake.
Fun: Didn’t sail at all, unfortunately. Did though create a hobby of astrophotography with the amazing Seestar S50. Did quite a bit of private travel which was OK. Very little business travel, only one trip.
$: Spent a lot of money including a kids’ car and other things, furniture, travel, etc. Did not meet goals.

17 Life-Learnings from 17 Years of The Marginalian

January 3, 2024 by Brett

17 Life-Learnings from 17 Years of The Marginalian

Year in Review – 2023

January 2, 2024 by Brett

An image of storm clouds seems appropriate. 2023 is a year that quite a few members of our families would like to forget.

Highlights

I got a promotion at work.
- Had some successes at work, but also some disappointments. It’s going to be a very difficult year at work in 2024. Will have to see if that includes looking or at least browsing for other opportunities.
Generally, a fun and quick trip to Australia in Q1 – time to hang out with Mum.
Two work trips to Germany, though one with a transfer disaster through Iceland.
Generally kept up with running. Didn’t quite hit goals but 80% to 90% was OK given the year we had.
Did some sailing and got the basic ASA 101 keelboat certification again.
Started a website about AI, AI Builder Academy, and completed some online training courses.

Lowlights

Lost my Mum.
Lost father-in-law and Aunt.

Of course, nothing else compares to this. Other lowlights, though more trivial were no family vacation and less trivial, generally too much work and stress in my life.

Moving Forward

A few focus points for 2024:

Slower, less work, less stress
Better eating/drinking
Hobbies and fun!
Family Vacation!

The Lonely City

December 26, 2023 by Brett

The Lonely City: Adventures in the Art of Being Alone

I like the Marginalien. Though can be a challenging read at times. Simply engaging.

Happiness at Work

September 29, 2023 by Brett

This is a very important article.

Happiness at Work

September 8, 2023 by Brett

Very interesting article.

https://hbr.org/2023/09/harvards-arthur-c-brooks-on-the-secrets-to-happiness-at-work

Mum Gathering, July 16 2023

September 4, 2023 by Brett

Here is the speech I gave for Mum.

It is extremely difficult to not only focus on deep sorrow, the shattering feelings of losing Mum far too early. Perhaps one possible path is to try to live like Mum did. Because despite the current devastation we all feel, we can feel uplifted by Mum’s life and how she lived. We heard about her extraordinary life and adventures today, and I’d like to talk a bit about the ‘how’.

Recent text messages from Mum in 2023:
– Bring on 2023, strong & invincible, thumbs up, much love, …
– All good here, lots of thunder & rain, …
– Hi darling, we’re going good, lovely day, …
– We’re having a good time, … watched the footy last night, great finish!
– Hi darling boy, we’re going good, having beautiful weather, warm and sunny, nice!,

…I think we can hear a pattern here. Mum loved life, always having fun, always positive, always concocting some future travel adventures. She managed to fit this in and around determinedly sampling garlic prawns and bubbles across Australia and the Adelaide Hills. Hanging out with friends and family, she is loved across Australia, reaching as far as Chicago. Her photos always show her smiling and laughing, welcoming everyone. Unless that is you were a dickhead at which point you were labeled a ‘DH’.! A phrase heard often from her, particularly recently: “How Lucky Are We?”, perhaps accompanied with a small, defiant thumbs up…

In summary, a bit like the old WWJD (What Would Jesus Do) bracelets, I’d like to think WWMD, What Would Mum Do. The answer, with rare exception, would be to be positive, plan and have as much fun as possible, and simply enjoy each day. Knowing now and then that Mum was one in a million, a true shining light in a sometimes, gloomy world.

Mum left us with one joke and one piece of profound wisdom right at the end:
”…, How are you today Mum?” –> “Better than a couple of days ago and you can stick that in your pipe and smoke it!”.
“…, Andrew will be here in a bit” –> “Well, I hope he doesn’t cook us any of that bloody Tofu!”

Lastly, to quote parts of a recent Nick Cave letter:

If we do not attend to the work of projecting delight upon the world, what are we actually doing? If we do not look for joy, search for it, reach deep for it, what are we saying about the world?

Are we saying that malevolence is the routine stuff of life, that oppression and corruption and degradation is the very matter of the world? That we greet each day with suspicion, bitterness and contempt? …

For me, to strive toward joy has become a calling and a practice. It is carried out with the full understanding of the terms of this hallowed and harrowed world. I pursue it with an awareness that joy exists both in the worst of the world and within the best, and that joy, flighty, jumpy, startling thing that it is, often finds its true voice within its opposite. Joy sings small, bright songs in the dark — these moments, so easily disregarded, so quickly dismissed, are the radiant points of light that pierce the gloom to give validation to the world. … joy exists as a bright, insistent spasm of defiance within the darkness of the world. Seek it. It is there.